Contemplating marriage as wedding nearsApril 5th, 2012 at 7:51 pm by ajcolley under News Blog
Editor’s note: Daybreak Anchor Lauren Lowrey shares her thoughts on marriage as she prepares for her wedding.
Was there a time in your life when you realized something you had long been told wasn’t true? For me, it concerned marriage and relationships. As a kid, I had always heard adults talking about how difficult marriage was. “You have to work at it,” someone would say. “That ‘in-love’ feeling doesn’t last for longer than 2 years, so make sure you really like each other.” I had gone through life thinking relationships were difficult and I would have to work hard to make it last. I never knew what I now hold to be true: Loving the right person is easy.
I was 21 at the time working as a Morning Anchor in my hometown of Myrtle Beach. I had just met the man who is now, six years later, about to become my husband (Read the story of how we met here: http://www.blakeandlauren.com/defaultWebsiteFrame.asp?frame=yes&pageID=763081). From the moment we met, I sensed his balance, humility and kindness. Every moment with him was uplifting and inspiring. With him, I was confident. I had a settled feeling in my soul – the kind of ease that only comes with the deep trust, love and appreciation for another person. Was our love enough to make an enduring commitment to each other? Absolutely.
But it seems my commitment puts me in the minority. According to a recent study (http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2011/12/14/barely-half-of-u-s-adults-are-married-a-record-low/?src=prc-headline) by the Pew Research Center, just 20% of adults ages 18 to 29 are married, compared with 59% in 1960. Maybe the striking failure rate of most marriages spooked my generation, making them reluctant to even try. But that’s where I’m puzzled. Why would someone exclude themselves from the most meaningful part of life?
So, in order to make the inception of this meaningful commitment more memorable, my fiancé and I decided to do a small destination wedding at an Irish country estate called Castle Leslie (http://www.castleleslie.com/). After living in three different cities together, we knew planning a state-side wedding would be much larger than we could handle. We found a small, intimate wedding to be much more appealing. Not only would it be a vacation for us, but for all of our guests as well (not to mention, an exceptional opportunity to travel: out of the 28 of us traveling for the wedding, only 5 have ever been to Ireland). We’ll spend two weeks exploring Ireland and England; laughing, loving and spending time together as husband and wife.
If you’re wondering our strategy on how we intend to make our marriage last:
1. We’ll continue to write love letters to each other every day (yes, I said continue).
2. We’ll say “I love you” every chance we get.
3. We’ll explore the world together and make every day an adventure.
4. We’ll uphold a perfect trust through fidelity out of respect for each other.
After all, we’re not just spouses, we’re best friends, and all the curve balls in life can’t separate two people who fiercely love, honor and cling to each other.